Ladies, have you ever questioned your man’s sexual preference? It could be his grooming regimen (manicures, pedicures and waxing). Or maybe it’s the life-size cardboard cutout of Prince in his bedroom (true story). Whatever it is, you’ve found yourself wondering about who he likes in bed rather than what he likes.
Watch part 1 of “Does My Boyfriend Like Boys?” And let’s discuss below.
Do you think someone who’s bisexual (or has had bisexual experiences) should disclose their sexual past to all of their partners? I asked some of my friends, here’s what they said…
Married, 30something heterosexual female: “Full disclosure is fair only if the relationship will become mutually exclusive. Otherwise, it should be on a need to know basis. Besides, no one is 100% honest about the number of partners and/or experiences they’ve had. If sex is in the plan, then it would be swell if they mentioned it.”
Married, 20something heterosexual female: “I’m not sure they have to disclose any more than anyone else, but I’m also a sharer when it comes to that. My hubby and I both know each other’s sexual past, including what (blessedly minor!) STI we got from what asshole. We even got tested for everything before we started skipping the condoms (I’ve always required that in every serious relationship I’ve been in.). Really, it just comes down to giving me all the info I need to know so that I can feel safe being intimate with you.”
Single, 30, heterosexual male: “Not necessarily. Sexual escapades of the past really shouldn’t be divulged regardless of sexual preference, unless it pops up as a topic of conversation for one reason or another. Even then it’s probably not the best idea. However, having a discussion about what basically makes someone’s sexual life great is a good thing. Couples should talk more about what they like and don’t like in an honest and open conversation.”
Single, 30something heterosexual female: “Absolutely, so I know what turns my partner on and their sexual history. I like to know my partner’s entire sexual biography, even when I don’t think they’re bisexual. It fosters intimacy.”
Single, 30something homosexual male: “No. People shouldn’t have to detail their sexual past; that just opens up an entire can of worms.”
What do you think?
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I think that it is only fair that someone let the person they intend to have sexual relations with know what they are getting themselves into. We all like to have choices so it is beyond rude for someone to strip you of your right to choose whether or not you want to be a part of that lifestyle. I think it comes down to selfishness on behalf of the person who feels they don't have to tell anyone if they don't feel like it.
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Ladies, have you ever questioned your man’s sexual preference? It could be his grooming regimen (manicures, pedicures and waxing). Or maybe it’s the life-size cardboard cutout of Prince in his bedroom (true story). Whatever it is, you’ve found yourself wondering about who he likes in bed rather than what he likes.Married, 30something heterosexual female: “Full disclosure is fair only if the relationship will become mutually exclusive. Otherwise, it should be on a need to know basis. Besides, no one is 100% honest about the number of partners and/or experiences they’ve had. If sex is in the plan, then it would be swell if they mentioned it.”